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How to learn people's names...

If you want someone to like you a powerful thing you can do is remember their name. “Jimmy…”, you say, “It’s good to see you. How are you?” There’s nothing complicated about using a person’s name — if you can remember it. For a lucky few, people's names just stick. Maybe like me, you’ve encountered people like this. Often they are unaware just how remarkable it is to be able to recall someone’s name just through being told it once. Although maybe you’re not one of those people. Maybe like me, you have real difficulty learning people's names even when you’re trying. You probably know how frustrating it feels; "Hey, I care about people too! My brain just isn’t 'sticky' enough!" There's real benefit in remembering people’s names and like it or not, there's a real cost when you can't. It affects relationships. Some people simply can’t comprehend why you don't know their name and their explanation is: you don’t care enough to bother. The second cost is your ability to learn names. If you don’t know a person’s name you can’t use it and if you don’t use it, you can’t reinforce it in your memory for later.

This week a friend of mine — we’ll call him “James” - recounted to me a strategy he’d used...

This entry was written by Duncan Babbage as a guest post for the EnrolMy blog. Read the rest of the story over on the EnrolMy blog.